Born April 5, 1945, in Ringgold, Louisiana, to Howard C. and Laura Alice Shaw, she was raised in Jamestown -- 5 miles from Ringgold -- and attended schools in both places, graduating from Ringgold High in 1963.
She attended Louisiana College and LSU-Shreveport, and worked a variety of jobs for many years. Her most enjoyable venture was as an antiques and collectibles dealer for a decade.
She married twice, the second time to Nico Van Thyn in Shreveport; they were married for 48 years, eight months and 12 days.
She had three children -- Melissa, stillborn at birth; Jason Key, 1974; and Rachel Van Thyn, 1979.
She resided in places as varied as Memphis; Shreveport for a decade; Kailua, Hawaii; Jacksonville, Florida (twice); Knoxville, Tennessee; and finally in Texas for almost 24 years -- North Richland Hills, then Fort Worth.
Her final 7 1/2 years were as a resident of Trinity Terrace, a seniors community, where she was loved, respected and admired.
She was preceded in death by her parents and her in-laws, and younger brother-by-two years Howard Shaw.
Survivors include Nico, Jason Key and Rachel Smith; four grandchildren -- Josephine "Josie" Smith, Jacob Key, Kaden Key; and Eli Smith; younger sisters Brenda Chastain (husband Noah "Bucky") and Alice Woodard (husband Leonard); son-in-law Russell Smith; sister-in-laws Nance Shaw and Elsa Van Thyn (husband Jim Wellen); first husband Jerry Key; and numerous nieces and nephews.
She faced several physical challenges through the years, particularly as a two-time cancer survivor.
She was a very smart, kind, compassionate, well-read, knowledgeable, upbeat person who loved to cook and color and travel. She was selfless; an understanding wife; and mostly a proud, dedicated mother and Granny.
She did not want a memorial service, and she donated her body to the UNT Health Science Center in Fort Worth for medical research. Eventually her remains will return to North Louisiana to be with her parents.
From Bud Dean: I am so very sorry to hear this sad news. Y’all were a special couple who shared their lives with friends and family. Stephana’s and my heart goes out to you and your loved ones and family.
ReplyDeleteFrom Yale Youngblood: I'm sad to learn this news. You have been blessed to have such a wonderful spouse, and your tribute here is beautiful.
ReplyDeleteFrom James Bustillo: Dee and I are so sad to hear about Bea. To say she was a loving and supportive partner would be an understatement. We can only hope the memories of her loving ways and kindness will help you and your family through these very difficult times. Our prayers and respect are with you throughout.
ReplyDeleteFrom Pesky Hill: So sorry to hear of your loss. I’m thankful we got to meet Beatrice when we went to breakfast in Fort Worth. God bless you and your family.
ReplyDeleteFrom Ron Nierman: Jackie and I were so saddened to hear that Bea has died. We were unaware of the severity of her situation, although from time to time you alluded to some difficulty in your lives. I will remember Bea as one of the kindest and sweetest people I have ever known. She could not have been more devoted and caring toward your parents (and particularly your mom toward the end), and she always did so without expecting anything for herself in return. While I wasn't there to witness it, I know she was the same with you, your kids, and your grandkids. It was not about what she did, it was who she was. I can only imagine the unfairness and cruelty that comes with dementia and the return of cancer after so many years. Despite how heartbreaking this decline must have been, I'm sure you provided her with the best care possible. She was a very special woman -- and you knew it.
ReplyDeleteJackie joins me in sending our love to all of you.
From Mike Stephenson: I’m so sorry. I know Bea was the love of your life and you experienced great joy together. She lives on through you, the kids, grandkids and everyone she touched.
ReplyDeleteFrom Ben Sour and Louise: My condolences. That's a beautiful obituary and lets those of us who didn't know her well feel what a wonderful, loved person she was.
ReplyDeleteFrom Ron Kestenbaum: Peggy and I are so sorry to hear of Bea's passing. After all these years we can still remember her vibrant personality. Hoping memories of 48 happy years together will help get you through these rough times.
ReplyDeleteFrom Tim Looney: I am so sorry to hear of Bea's passing! She was such a sweet lady. I know she will be greatly missed by you and all who knew her. Lean on family and friends (myself included) for whatever support and comfort you need.
ReplyDeleteStay strong and be thankful for the time you had with her. My sincere condolences,
From Ed English: So sorry . . . I can still remember when you guys were dating and that you seemed SOOO good together. That's hearbreaking news . . . I hope your multitude of friends keep you lifted up through this. You guys were the best.
ReplyDeleteFrom Leo Van Thyn: There are times when one cannot find the right words. Losing one’s life partner is one of those times. There are no words.
ReplyDeleteAlthough we got to meet Bea only a few times over the years, she always made us feel as though we knew her all our lives. Her cheerful and gracious manner made us feel genuinely welcome when we managed to make it to family gatherings. While we are fifth cousins, that distance didn’t matter around Bea.
We have discussed how much you and I have in common – you even wrote a blog about it – in reality what we really have in common is that we have both been truly blessed to be married to the ladies in our lives. They are the ladies who have enabled us to pursue the things in our lives that we valued. They are irreplaceable. It has been said, we admire women who overcome adversity, stand tall in the face of challenges, and lead with their hearts. That explains our wives.
On behalf of Carol, of my part of the Van Thyn family, and myself please accept our condolences. May Bea’s memory always be for blessing.
From Debbie Aulenbacher: Bea’s obituary was beautifully written. 🙏
ReplyDeleteI know you have been grieving the loss of your dear Bea for some time now. She was lucky to have had you as a loving husband and to be spared the grieving of your health failure and ultimate death. As months and years go on, you will see that death does not end the relationship you have with her. She will always be a part of you and you are a better person for it.
I hope you and your family find peace and comfort with the treasured memories she gave you.
From Teddy Allen: Attababy. Tip of ballcap AND took a knee. She was a blessing. A miracle, really.
ReplyDeleteFrom Brandy Stroud: I’m very sad to hear of Miss Bea’s passing. She was lovely and you and your family have my deepest condolences. I only spent a small amount of time with her in relation to hanging out with Miss Rose. Bea was also here the day after Robert and I married when we had the 88th surprise birthday gathering for Miss Rose. I know she was very well loved and this is an unimaginable loss. Sending you our love.
ReplyDeleteFrom Rabbi Jana L. De Benedetti: She was wonderful -- sweet, kind, funny, and caring. May remembering her continue to be a blessing. I am sorry for your loss.
ReplyDeleteFrom Shannon Petree Fable: Oh, my heart is breaking ... she was simply the kindest, most caring woman who loved you and her kiddos so deeply. Sending you, Rachel, and Jason the biggest of hugs.
ReplyDeleteFrom Coach Leonard Ponder: When I received your tributes to Bea I read them with a vivid memory of the person who made you complete. ... I realize there is nothing I or anyone else can say to make things easier for you. Of all the losses we can experience in life, the loss of a life mate is by far the worst. It leaves a hole that cannot be filled. Having your family and friends around certainly helps, but the void is still too big.
ReplyDeleteI am thinking now about our trip to Augusta National. Sue Ann and I met Bea when the two of you and Jay came by our house for a most enjoyable visit. It was the first time I saw you as an adult. I remember having sandwiches at your apartment when you, Jay and I went to the Colonial golf tournament. I got to know Bea a little better then. However, it was the Augusta National trip where Linda and I got to see the warmth and depth of the Bea you loved so much. It warmed our hearts to see how you two interacted with one another. There were other times together when you two came for my retirement event and when you accompanied us to see Jessica's musical performance in Fort Worth. However, the Augusta National trip provided us with an in depth view of Bea. Meeting and marrying her was indeed a critical moment in your life.
From Janet Glaspie: I recognize the pain, the relief, the heartache. I am so sorry for your loss; for Bea's loss, too. Are we ever ready to let them go? No, but suffering is painful for both, too.
ReplyDeleteYou wrote a beautiful tribute to her. Her life was indeed a blessing--to so many. It sounds as if she could not have had better care, and that's a tribute to you.
I trust you will find comfort in the memories, family and friends. I wish you peace and the ability to see additional blessings in each day.
From Carol Canterbury: So sorry to hear about Bea. You have created a beautiful tribute to her. I was so touched by your love and devotion to such a wonderful person and your life together. Prayers for you and your family. Take care of yourself.
ReplyDeleteFrom Joe Ferguson: So sorry to hear about Beatrice. She had to be a very special lady to keep up with you.
ReplyDeleteFrom Vince Langford: Deepest condolences on Bea's passing from this life to the next. She leaves a huge void, no doubt, and I see all the tributes people wrote to you and realize how much she will be missed by so many.
ReplyDeleteFrom John Sturbin: Sincere condolences from myself and Martha Fairris on the passing of your beloved Beatrice. Having dealt with my mother's dementia, I know how that disease can change a person _ often to the point of a caregiver's frustration. I'm certain you did all you could to protect Bea...sometimes from herself...during what often must have felt like a "36-hour day."
ReplyDeleteBea's wish to have her remains donated for medical research is her final act of the love you shared.
From Nelda Casbon: I am so sorry for your loss. Although I did not know her personally, she was obviously kind, generous and well loved. You and your family are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteFrom Dr. Jim Alexander: Betsy and I are so sorry to hear that Bea has died. In talking with you, we know her last months were a challenge for both of you. We admired how you cared for her to the last. We will miss her and grieve at her passing. She is at peace now. Beautiful picture of her with your message.
ReplyDeleteFrom Kay Love: Thank you for sharing this. I really wish that I had known her before her illness. One day, I rode with you and Bea to the doctor’s, and I got a glimpse of Bea before her illnesses. We would have been friends!
ReplyDeleteFrom Tahita Fulkerson: You will be overcome by all the e-mails you'll receive about this information. Please consider them proof of Queen Bea's many friends and admirers and your equally huge fan club of admirers. The two of you have made Trinity Terrace better for all of us.
ReplyDeleteFrom Nancy Langley: My heart goes out to you and your family. Now you and Bea can rest.
ReplyDeleteMy brother donated his body for research too. Her last act is very selfless.
From Marilyn Cantu: I’m sorry but she is happy now and at rest from all our earthly trappings. She was a strong, good person. Your tribute was sweet -- 48 years, eight months and 12 days. ❤️My love and condolences.
ReplyDeleteFrom Diane Kessler: I am so sorry to hear of Bea's passing. I enjoyed her in everything we did together. I know you will miss her greatly.
ReplyDeleteIt's almost a year since Ken passed. It isn't easy. Your family and your Trinity Terrace family will be a great help.
From Dr. Warner Bailey: Mary and I send our heartfelt condolences to you and your family. Your tribute to her is so touching. We commend you for your indefatigable care. We know it must have been at a great cost to you but you shouldered it magnificently.
ReplyDeleteFrom Judy (and Gordon) Chapin: Bitter/sweet news.Her race was won, but she will certainly be missed here. On a personal note, It has been such a treat to be confused as Bea. Apparently we really did look so much alike. At just 80, she would be my little sister.
ReplyDeletePlease know that your TT friends are blessed to have you in our midst, and we hope to be of comfort and support in the ways that YOU need. Peace & Grace.
From Doug Bland: I’m so sorry to read about your loss. I can’t imagine how much you loved her. I know she must have had an everlasting love of you following you around to your many jobs. You and your family will be in my prayers.
ReplyDeleteFrom Merilyn and Bruce Corning: We are saddened by the loss of Bea. When I first moved to Trinity Terrace, Bea and I took Mahjongg lessons from Judy Bianchi and had a fun time together. ... It has been a hard journey for you both at the end.
ReplyDeleteFrom Mike Morgan: Although I never met her, I have learned of your beautiful connection. She obviously was a special lady. May God's presence be with you and your family.
ReplyDeleteFrom Susan Poag: Sending you a huge hug. I am so sorry for your loss. What an amazing, wonderful life you shared together.
ReplyDeleteFrom Frances J. Freeman: She lived a great life and left a precious legacy. As one who understands I assure you that none of us can aspire to more.
ReplyDeleteFrom Jan Baker: I am so sorry for your loss. My mother had Alzheimer’s and I understand the long goodbye.
ReplyDeleteKeeping you and your family in my prayers at this difficult time.
From Jo Jackson: We are truly saddened by the news of Bea’s death. She was always well liked and admired. May her memory be a blessing.
ReplyDeleteFrom Stan Tiner: Beatrice was an exceptional lady: a loving wife, mother and grandmother, true friend to so many, and her intellect and spiritual gifts were amazing. The Tiner family offers our condolences and prayers to all of her dear family. Rest In Peace forever, Bea.🙏🙏
ReplyDeleteFrom Joe Rhodes: Well, shit, Nico. Sorry to hear it. That was a long journey, pal. I can't believe she put up with you for so many years. I'm glad she did, though. She saved you from yourself. Good work, Bea. Get some rest.
ReplyDeleteFrom Lori Dann: Oh, I’m so sorry to read this. Thinking of you and hoping your many wonderful years together and great memories give you come comfort at this difficult time.
ReplyDeleteFrom Loretta Geneux: Nico, we are so sorry to hear this news. May she Rest in Peace. Extend our condolences to Jason and Rachel and their children. I know she will be missed.
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From Bob Thomas: Sending our sincerest condolences to the entire family. Her gift to UNT aligns beautifully with the way you’ve described her. 🙏
ReplyDeleteFrom Conny Gosschalk Henry: Oh, I'm so very, very sorry to read this news about Bea!!! I've read your fb posts over the years and I can tell how much you love her, and how proud you are of the family you two had together. There are never words that can help when someone you love dies, but please know that you, the kids, and the grandkids are in my thoughts.
ReplyDeleteFrom Angelina Rice: I am so very sorry for the loss of your beloved Bea. She was always such a sweet and caring person. I remember when the two of you married, and I continue to treasure your friendship. May Bea rest in peace, and I'll be praying for you and your family.
ReplyDeleteFrom Katelin White (former neighbor): The most amazing woman with the kindest heart. ♥️
ReplyDeleteFrom Keith Prince: We are so sorry to learn this. Bea was obviously a wonderful partner with whom you shared great times, challenging times and a precious family. Our thoughts are with you and all your family. ❤️
ReplyDeleteFrom Mike Strange: Sorry she had such a rough finish. Good lady. Glad I knew her.
ReplyDeleteFrom Michael Edwards: Great memories at the YMCA downtown where we had good talks. So pleasant, kind, and bright.
ReplyDeleteFrom George Sylvie: Oh man, I can’t express enough sympathy to compensate for your loss. She was such a sweet and kind person. My condolences to the whole family.
ReplyDeleteFrom Sheryl Chastain Dorman: I’m so sorry for the loss you guys are feeling. I know words can’t help. Aunt Bea was such a loving and supportive spirit. She was bold and strong, which I admired so much. She will be missed. Please know you guys are all in my thoughts. Sending love your way.
ReplyDeleteFrom Elise Chapman: I’m so sorry for your loss.🥲 She was so loved by you and your family. May God be near. Love you cousin 🙏
ReplyDeleteFrom Kim Oakey: So sorry to hear this. She lived a good life and was well loved. My hugs to you and family. 😥💔💗
ReplyDeleteFrom Beverly C. Porche: John and I send our most heartfelt sympathies to you and your family in the passing of Bea. We never met her, but felt like we knew her through your many messages and blogs. Praying for you.
ReplyDeleteFrom Sarah Grunwald Newbury: I'm so grateful that through the years we have gotten to know Bea through your FB posts, and I am, especially grateful, that I got to actually meet her many years ago. I know how close y'all were and that you will miss her greatly. Allow the memories to fill your heart. Dennis and my thoughts and prayers are with you. ♥️🙏🏻
ReplyDeleteFrom Helaine Nierman Braunig: She was someone we were all blessed to know. I loved to talk to her about family and current events and books, especially books. May you all experience comfort in knowing of all the lives she touched.
ReplyDeleteFrom Wally Rugg: My sincere condolences to you and your family. Of course, I remember when you and Bea starting dating in Shreveport so many years ago. Y’all were meant for each other. Congratulations on a marriage well-lived.
ReplyDeleteSince you and I text quite often, I’m well aware of your care and concern for Bea in the past few months.
May God bless you and your family during this trying time.
From NaTasha Woodard (niece): I am so sorry she is no longer on Earth. I know you will miss her terribly. We will miss her, too. We love you, Uncle Nico.
ReplyDeleteFrom Marycup Clark Harrison: I am so very sorry to read of Bea’s passing. I didn’t know she had been ill. She was such a joy to me on FB and I know she will be sorely missed. RIP Bea.
ReplyDeleteFrom Meade Patton: I'm so sorry for you and the family's loss. Throughout the years I always felt an uplift from your expressions of love and respect for Bea.
ReplyDeleteFrom Ron Higgins: She was the epitome of a sportswriter’s wife, always handling the next crisis with grace, humor and love and staying grounded while her environment constantly changed around adapting to Nico’s job moves. She was simply the best. Nico, their kids, their grandkids and any one else she touched are hurting today. But they are also blessed to have her in their lives. Many prayers for you.
ReplyDeleteFrom Kelly Patkus: I loved reading more about her life, what a beautiful tribute you wrote. You know I loved you both 💕
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